Reasons why breaking up isn't really hard to do

Couples who can’t stand each other even for just one day have the courtesy to put a very understated reason on the divorce papers, irreconcilable differences.

Currently not in a relationship right now, or married for that matter, but I had my  unfair share of heartaches through my years on this life.  Maybe there are people who are cut off for a “coupled” life, while some are destined to love solitude for all time. Enough about me.

Let’s admit it, even how painful and soul-wrenching a split up is, at the end of the day, a single nerve in our brain transmits a message that it was all for best, that you had to be apart from that person and that you are a little relieved and one day, we’ll wake up with bouncing smiles.   But then again, regret is something we’ll all feel along the way because the happy ever part is over, at least with that person.

So, what drives couples to breaking up madness?  But before you go on, I have a disclaimer, I’m talking about men and women in general, so, it doesn’t mean that if you’re a man that you’re guilty of these things, same goes for women.  Well, if you are guilty, then, that’s your story.

1. Men don’t apologize while women can’t let go

Generally, this is the case why relationships falter. Men tend to talk little and just keep quiet and don’t want talks that last more than at least five minutes.  On the other hand, women tend to hold on to a lot of stuff. All of us can shut up for a while but when something triggers the emotions, we burst in a way that men can’t stand the tension anymore.  Maybe both can just make way for each other, you know, men can say sorry not only with gifts but with a little apologetic speech as well, while women can let little things go as long as they have been resolved.

2. Couples tend to focus on the negative

We are all guilty of this.  Unfortunately, there comes a time that we unconsciously turn a blind eye to the good things and concentrate on the bad for it is better to cite the bad ones, to some extent.  Maybe we can all go back to the dating  days when appreciate the little yet sweetest thing our partners do for us.

3. Bad timing

This is something that is inevitable.  It’s like we’re busy all the time and can’t be disturbed. Maybe we can be more intimate by hugging each other more. Hugging increases oxytoxin, the happy hormone. That way, timing won’t be a problem anymore. I mean, there’s really no good timing. A bad news will always be bad news, same goes for the good ones.

4. Partners either talk too much or too little

Looks like there’s never balance, isn’t it?  But then again, we can never talk moderately right? Maybe the key is to solve this is to let each other talk first instead of talking simultaneously like there’s no tomorrow.

Eye openers

Ah, maybe stones will be thrown instead of bread. When all these things happen, breaking up isn’t that hard to do and the easiest road to travel.  It all depends to the situation. Have posted the reasons not to point blame but to open realizations and learn from them. In the end, let's all love one another to achieve world peace.