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Loving means sharing.. EVERYTHING.
Or is it really? Are there still lines that should remain uncrossed? The bathroom door, perhaps?
My bff, Erin, spends the night in my apartment whenever she and her husband have fights. I’m used to seeing her at my door either crying or swearing about her husband. But her latest unsolicited sleep over a month ago gave me the shocker of my life. They fought over their bathroom.
She said that she had the last straw when her husband left the bathroom in a colossal mess. The toilet seat was like a mummy wrapped in tissue paper, the soap was floating in the tub, the shampoo caps and toothpastes were all unsealed, the hole was full of hairs, and cigarette butts were all over the bathroom tiles. She said that this has been going since the day they got back from their honeymoon two years ago. In her rant and stress, she actually thought of leaving him.
She came back in my place just this past weekend and was beaming happily when she told me that they have built two bathrooms in their house. She ecstatically told me a mixture of zen-like insights and practical benefits on how having separate bathrooms brought back the romance in their marriage.
1. There is an increased respect for one’s sense of space
We all know that besides love, respect is essential in sustaining relationships. A sense that you still have something you can actually call your own even becauseyou know that if you ever get a divorce he’ll get half of what’s yours, unless you have a pre-nup.
2. Your own bathroom gives the perfect avenue for emotional release.
Aside from the obvious "releasing" we all do in this area of the house, having your own bathroom from your partner can provide healing activity with privacy.
3. The sense of separation gives an air of mystery and excitement.
There’s a tingling feeling when you visualize what’s behind the other room where your partner is usually half naked or totally naked besides your bed.
4. You don’t have to be stressed over your partner’s mess.
With your own bathroom, you don’t have to experience migraines over what you’ll see after your partner goes out of it every morning. You don’t have to wake up earlier than your partner just to get into the bathroom first.
5. Your bathing hours need not to be cut short.
If you’re one of those who spends at least an hour taking a bath just like me and Erin, then having a separate bathroom is the most ideal for you.
I’m still living alone so I don’t have a problem with sharing. But then again, it all depends on the couples. Some can share and eventually compromise and make changes to each other’s bathroom habits. In the end, either you stuck to one bathroom or built another one, if you really love each other, you’ll meet halfway. The bathroom really made Erin mature. Believe me, she can be really shallow at times. By the way, Erin and her husband are now carrying a gift from the stork.
